Dealing with Death Grip Syndrome
Look guys, we have to sit down and talk about a certain condition or syndrome that many of you suffer from, but don’t know exactly what it is or are even too embarrassed to talk about.
I’m talking about death grip syndrome. While it’s not an actual medical condition, it is something that is going to not only affect your sex life, but it is also going to affect you mentally as well.
What is Death Grip Syndrome?
Death grip syndrome is a product of too much masturbation and also a result of squeezing too hard while you masturbate.
Don’t get me wrong here, there is nothing wrong with masturbating as a man, it’s just you have to be careful with how you do it and how much you do it. Sex and masturbation are both pleasurable, and if you aren’t in a position to have sex, I don’t blame you for quickly whipping it out and firing one off.
If you are suffering from death grip syndrome, you are going to find that you either cannot orgasm at all during sex or that it takes way too long when compared to your masturbating sessions.
The telltale sign of death grip syndrome is that you can reach orgasm in a couple of minutes if not seconds while masturbating, but not with sex.
This in turn can really mess with your head and get you thinking what’s wrong, thus removing yourself even further mentally during sex, making an orgasm all but impossible.
Death grip syndrome does not have to just be tied to how you masturbate and can be tied to porn consumption as well. Death grip syndrome is a blanket term used to describe a person who is unable to cum during sex, but can easily do it while masturbating. I’m going to be talking about some of the things that cause death grip syndrome and you’ll notice that they all aren’t directly tied to how you hold your penis.
Fortunately, there are a few ways to go about fixing death grip syndrome so you can get back to having sex and enjoying it like you normally do. Before we do that though, let’s dive into the exact causes for death grip syndrome and why it makes your penis less responsive during sex.
Squeezing Too Hard
The first and most obvious reason for death grip syndrome is that you are squeezing your penis too tightly.
Your penis is full of receptors that help fill you with pleasure when the right amount of pressure is applied. When you are thrusting in a vagina, the vagina helps to constrict the penis in a way that makes it incredibly pleasurable for you.
While masturbating is supposed to simulate the constriction and pressure put on your penis, it is not a perfect replica of it by any means. In fact, sometimes you might be squeezing tighter than a vagina normally would on your penis. You might think at first that sounds painful, but you aren’t squeezing the hell out of it. You’re squeezing it and gripping it in a way that makes every stroke feel amazing for you.
The problem however is that you are over-stimulating your nerves in these kinds of situations and then they start to get adjusted to this new form of pleasure. This now becomes a problem if you switch over to sex and the vagina does not apply enough pressure to your nerve endings. Death grip syndrome starts to kick in and the sex doesn’t feel nearly as good as when you masturbate and as a result, you are going to find it quite difficult to masturbate.
Masturbating Too Often
Orgasming is a fantastic feeling and I totally understand if you want to masturbate several times a day to get those waves of pleasure. Like anything that you do often, if you do it too much, your body starts to get used to it, therefore making it difficult to achieve in the future.
If you have trouble understanding this, think of people who drink coffee. The first time you drink coffee, you are going to get an immense caffeine high as your body reacts to this new chemical.
After years of drinking it, you might need a couple of espresso shots thrown in there just to reach that same level of energy. This is because your body is adapting to what you are doing. The same goes for masturbating, and if you are masturbating multiple times a day - every day - for several years, you are going to start finding it more and more difficult to masturbate.
If you’ve ever had a day where you’ve masturbated multiple times, you might notice that the third or fourth time starts to become much more difficult than the first. This is another reason why people suffer from death grip syndrome and it results in them struggling during sex.
Performance Anxiety
While this is not directly related to how you masturbate, performance anxiety is still linked to death grip syndrome. If you are nervous or anxious during sex, it will reflect in how your body reacts during the act itself. This is amplified if you think that you are already suffering from death grip syndrome.
The more you worry about not orgasming during sex or the more you think about trying to make it happen, the harder it is going to become. So the solution should be simple right, stop thinking about orgasming? Unfortunately, it’s difficult to just stop thinking about something, especially if it is something that you are nervous about. Performance anxiety is a real thing when it comes to sex and can be a real hindrance and a definite cause of death grip syndrome.
Porn and Fantasies
I love porn, it’s great for when I want to have some fun by myself, but there are some problems that come along with it.
Porn by nature should not be compared to the sex that you have with your partner. It is unrealistic to expect that out of them and can even be toxic for the relationship.
Watching too much porn can affect what arouses you and you might start to find standard sex with your partner doesn’t get you as hard as it once did. This is because you have rewired your body to want that same sex that you watch on the computer.
The same thing can be said about having sexual fantasies as well. There is nothing wrong with having a fantasy and wanting to re-enact it, however, if your masturbating is always linked to this one fantasy, you are going to have trouble cumming unless you are directly involved in it. This is another cause of death grip syndrome that once again is not linked to how you hold your penis.
Medications
Recent studies have shown that people who take antidepressants, such as SSRIs, are more likely to experience death grip syndrome as well. If you find yourself taking medication like that and suffering from death grip syndrome, you might have found your solution. This is because some medications affect the sensitivity of your penis, therefore making things feel less pleasurable.
Medical Conditions
The last reason I want to talk about death grip syndrome is underlying medical conditions. Any conditions that can result in lower testosterone levels can lead to death grip syndrome. Things like thyroid issues as well might contribute to nerve issues and reduce their sensitivity all across your body.
Cures For Death Grip Syndrome
Now that I’ve talked about all of the things that cause death grip syndrome, it’s time to talk about ways that you can reverse it. Keep in mind that these solutions might take some time to show results, however. Death grip syndrome is not something that develops overnight and in most cases, it is because of years of masturbation.
Therefore, you might need months if not longer to reverse all of these effects. It is going to be a difficult period, but if you really work at it, you can help to fix death grip syndrome and get back to having great sex with your partner. Here are some of the most common cures for death grip syndrome:
Stop Masturbating
I told you it wasn’t going to be easy fixing death grip syndrome. This is the first method that you should put into action if you want to fix death grip syndrome but it is also the hardest. Not masturbating for one day is easy, however, when you reach one week it starts to get a little harder.
If your body is used to masturbating daily, it is going to start to go through a feeling that is similar to withdrawals. You’ll find yourself getting turned on much easier and your body will be crying out for you to masturbate. You have to stay strong during all of this if you want to fix death grip syndrome.
The biggest tip to stop masturbating is to simply keep yourself preoccupied. If your mind starts running and thinking about all kinds of things, you’re going to end up wanting to watch porn and jerk off. If you stay busy with work and have planned events when you are with your partner, you won’t have the time to think about sex as much.
Now as I mentioned, I do understand that simply stopping masturbating is by no means an easy task. If you do fail and end up jerking off, don’t feel down on yourself. Yes, it will delay things and push your recovery further back, but it’s not the end of the world. The simple fact that you are making this decision is going to help fix death grip syndrome.
Avoid Porn
This should be an easy one to understand, especially because we are trying to limit how much you are masturbating. Porn is meant to turn you on, you’re meant to jerk off and masturbate when watching it. If you’re going to sit there and watch porn, good luck holding yourself together.
The other reason why you are going to want to avoid porn is because we need to break down those fantasies and assumptions that you have about sex. You need to stop exposing yourself to these situations so you can embrace sex with your partner in the moment and not hold it to some standard. You’ll find yourself instantly improving if you can stop using porn for a month or two.
Slowly Start to Masturbate Again
While you definitely want to fix your death grip syndrome issue, you don’t want to be depriving yourself of sex and masturbation altogether. Generally, after two weeks of not masturbating, it can start to be okay to ease yourself back into pleasuring yourself. You are not going to want to force it, however. If you naturally find yourself getting an erection, you can deal with it as you please. Better yet, you can talk with your partner and they can help you out as well. This will get your body more used to sex.
Ease Up On Your Masturbation Grips
Death grip syndrome has its name because of people gripping their penis rather strongly while masturbating. After your break from masturbation, you can slowly ease yourself back into things, however, you are going to have to take a look at your technique and make changes where necessary.
The biggest tip I have for all of you is to relax your grip on your penis. Yes, I understand this won’t feel as good as it has in the past, but it will make vaginal sex that much better when you have sex with your partner again.
The goal here is to make the real thing feel better than what your hands can do. Experiment around and find something that works for you, but remember you don’t want to be putting excess pressure on your penis and developing death grip syndrome again.
Relax During Sex
If the issue is a result of performance anxiety, you are going to want to find a way for you to relax during sex. As I talked about earlier, if you are thinking about cumming, you’re going to find yourself suffering from death grip syndrome during sex. There are a few ways that you can relax during sex to get your mind to calm down.
The first and probably easiest way would be to have a drink or two before jumping into bed with your partner. I am not saying to get extremely drunk and then have sex, I’m saying getting a light buzz can help relax your brain and prevent it from wandering as much. This is something that you need to discuss with your partner, as they need to be comfortable with you doing this as well.
Seek Out a Medical Professional
If you believe this issue is deeper than simply masturbating too much or using a tight grip, it might be time for you to go to the doctor and get things looked at. They can help spot any underlying medical conditions that haven’t been diagnosed yet and therefore can go about finding a way to treat them as well. Therapists can also greatly help you out if you are having issues with relaxing during sex as well.
Communicate With Your Partner
While this isn’t a cure for death grip syndrome I always recommend being honest and open with your partner whenever you can be. Death grip syndrome is not only affecting you, but it will also affect your partner as they might feel they aren’t performing well sexually because you aren’t cumming.
Express to them your concerns and talk about what you are struggling with. A good partner will be supportive during this time and will even work to help you in your battle against masturbation.
On the off chance your death grip syndrome is a result of issues in your relationship, talking about them and dealing with them can result in things improving as well.
I firmly believe that the key to a healthy relationship and sex life is by communicating and expressing your feelings to one another.
Final Thoughts
Death grip syndrome isn’t an easy thing to deal with and I can completely understand the frustrations you must be feeling during this time. You can fix death grip syndrome if you really want to make a change. Just to restate my points from the beginning of the article, there is nothing wrong with masturbating as it is a completely normal thing to do, however, you are now going to have to be more selective with how and when you masturbate.
By taking the time to put some of these solutions into action, you might find yourself able to orgasm and cum during sex much easier than you ever have before. Not only will you find yourself relieved, but your partner will also be incredibly happy about these changes as well. Hopefully, you can find a fix for your death grip syndrome and get your life back on track.