Orgasm Tease and Denial

Orgasm Denial Games and Ideas

Jump straight to my list of orgasm denial games, ideas and tips.

Orgasm denial (also known as orgasm control and erotic sexual denial) is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in an elevated state of arousal for extended periods of time, but denied the gratifying release of orgasm. For those who want to find out more about this kink and why people enjoy it, I recommend reading my Beginners Guide to Chastity and Orgasm Denial, where I cover the most frequently asked questions.

Tease and denial provides both physical and psychological pleasure, but it is the latter that inspires the majority of players to really indulge their desires. It is a fantasy, an idea that some find incredibly arousing and although some of us may share common themes within our fantasies, our tastes may differ somewhat in the details. When it comes to orgasm denial, an example of this difference is the opposing desires of those who prefer to be given a clearly defined date for their next release and those who get their thrills from not knowing. There are as many different ways to experience orgasm denial as there are people enjoying this kink and this is why it is so important to keep communicating, sharing ideas and ultimately tailoring your tease and denial sessions to suit you both.

To really get the most out of your chastity, or orgasm control experiences, you want to sit down and think about what aspects really turn you and your partner on. Some enthusiasts get a huge kick out of submitting and their fantasy might be having their orgasms controlled by another person, or being told when they are allowed pleasure and in what way it will be given. Some may simply get a huge kick out of the pleasure they feel when kept in a heightened state of arousal and enjoy being edged for a few hours during their sex sessions, while other orgasm control fans may wish to be kept in chastity and be denied for months, even years at a time. There are those who get a thrill out of being frustrated or humiliated and those who enjoy orgasm denial alone, or in a long distance relationship. As you can see, there are many nuances within the fantasy of  orgasm denial and each person will require a different method of teasing. There is not a “One True Way”

With that being said, a large part of the battle (especially with extended tease and denial sessions.) is having to constantly come up with new and exciting ways to keep the arousal levels high, or the enthusiasm alive. By its very nature, tease and denial does require a little imagination to keep things smouldering. With that in mind, I decided to come up with an article listing lots of ideas to help you and your partner enjoy your orgasm denial experience for a long time to come. The problem was that I had so many ideas, that this post began to turn into a novel. I therefore decided to add the following slider into this post, which contains many ideas for you to incorporate into your own sessions.

 

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Remember, not all of the ideas listed above will suit everyone, but I am sure you will leave this post with many new ideas to keep your juices flowing (or not flowing – in this case). My final advice would be to avoid making any tease and denial game too complicated, or requiring too much effort to follow. It will become tiresome quickly. Finally, make sure you mix it up often; to keep your partner on their toes and never forget that there is only one correct way to enjoy chastity and orgasm denial and that is the way that works best for you both.

If you are considering purchasing a chastity device, take a look at my chastity device reviews, as these may be able to guide you in the right direction.

What tease and denial methods turn you on the most? Leave your comments below and do let me know if you would like to see your idea added to the slider above.

40 replies
  1. Ken
    Ken says:

    A few things I’ve experienced in the past where: Every orgasm I’m allowed, I must eat every drop of my own mess.
    I must pleasure her orally and for each orgasm she receives…I can enter her for three or four strokes only.
    I had to ask a female friend who I’ve never had sex with, for permission to cum with an explanation of why I was horny, but then tell her afterwards what or who I thought about and where I shot my load *if she didn’t specify ahead of time*.

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  2. Maria
    Maria says:

    Teasing is sexy for men and women. There are many ways to tease man. As a prelude can tease man with a penis in a chastity belt. I give him my breasts to sucking them, then to lick me down over panties. For him that is very excited. Chastity belt stop his erection and push the balls up. When I take off a chastity belt, his penis is rock hard.
    The penis is stimulated up to the edge of ejaculation. Stimulation should be stopped that ejaculation does not come. This is repeated many times. More is the better. This creates a masculine sexual energy. More teasing create more sexual energy. Sexual energy is stored in the balls. After several days of intense teasing balls become larger and heavy. Man feels the tension in the balls. His sexual energy multiply his libido and desire to sexually satisfy a woman.
    Orgasm denial is important that male sexual energy remains high. Full orgasm depleted male sexual energy to zero, no matter how long it lasted period. Ruined orgasm half empty sexual energy
    It should begin with a week of denial. Period should be gradually increased up to a month or more.
    Teasing and Denial give a man for whom a woman becomes a goddess.

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  3. Michael
    Michael says:

    Chastity belt, orgasm denial and teasing together,changing man for the better. The first year my wife and I have experimented and found that: more teasing gives a better male mod. Normal male orgasm is absolutely bad for a good male mode. Female orgasm is excellent, cunnilingus too. Ejaculation without orgasm is much less harmful to men good mod, but it should rarely exercised only to the extent necessary for prostate health. Prostate milking once a month is a good idea, or ruined orgasm.
    Long denial, and frequent teasing gives a great man mod. The tension in the balls will be huge, but that gives a magnificent male behavior towards women.
    A common cunnilingus has a double effect. Has a positive effect on male mode and simultaneously gives mental satisfaction equivalent to orgasm without disturbing the positive male mode.
    Cunnilingus and at the same time, teasing and bringing the man to the edge leads man to madness.

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    • GrittyWoman
      GrittyWoman says:

      Sorry you have had trouble viewing the slider. I shall look into putting all the information into a text document of some sorts, that you can click to open, for anyone who has issues like this in future. Thanks for letting me know.

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  4. Heath Tingle
    Heath Tingle says:

    I know my partner will enjoy the idea of having to write down why I want to orgasm this particular time. She’s an academic who enjoys the mind’s workings. Kudos to that idea.

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  5. BMoney
    BMoney says:

    Loved the rolling dice and giving the partner that many orgasms before the sub is allowed to come. Using realistic toys in front of your caged partner sounds pretty exciting too. 🙂

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  6. Heaven
    Heaven says:

    If all my subs had a cock cage I be a happy camper. This sounds no good and dirty and I love it. Thanks for the fun ideas.

    Reply

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