Orgasm denial (also known as orgasm control and erotic sexual denial) is a sexual practice in which a person is kept in an elevated state of arousal for extended periods of time, but denied the gratifying release of orgasm. For those who want to find out more about this kink and why people enjoy it, I recommend reading my Beginners Guide to Chastity and Orgasm Denial, where I cover the most frequently asked questions.
Tease and denial provides both physical and psychological pleasure, but it is the latter that inspires the majority of players to really indulge their desires. It is a fantasy, an idea that some find incredibly arousing and although some of us may share common themes within our fantasies, our tastes may differ somewhat in the details. When it comes to orgasm denial, an example of this difference is the opposing desires of those who prefer to be given a clearly defined date for their next release and those who get their thrills from not knowing. There are as many different ways to experience orgasm denial as there are people enjoying this kink and this is why it is so important to keep communicating, sharing ideas and ultimately tailoring your tease and denial sessions to suit you both.
To really get the most out of your chastity, or orgasm control experiences, you want to sit down and think about what aspects really turn you and your partner on. Some enthusiasts get a huge kick out of submitting and their fantasy might be having their orgasms controlled by another person, or being told when they are allowed pleasure and in what way it will be given. Some may simply get a huge kick out of the pleasure they feel when kept in a heightened state of arousal and enjoy being edged for a few hours during their sex sessions, while other orgasm control fans may wish to be kept in chastity and be denied for months, even years at a time. There are those who get a thrill out of being frustrated or humiliated and those who enjoy orgasm denial alone, or in a long distance relationship. As you can see, there are many nuances within the fantasy of orgasm denial and each person will require a different method of teasing. There is not a “One True Way”
With that being said, a large part of the battle (especially with extended tease and denial sessions.) is having to constantly come up with new and exciting ways to keep the arousal levels high, or the enthusiasm alive. By its very nature, tease and denial does require a little imagination to keep things smouldering. With that in mind, I decided to come up with an article listing lots of ideas to help you and your partner enjoy your orgasm denial experience for a long time to come. The problem was that I had so many ideas, that this post began to turn into a novel. I therefore decided to add the following slider into this post, which contains many ideas for you to incorporate into your own sessions.
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Remember, not all of the ideas listed above will suit everyone, but I am sure you will leave this post with many new ideas to keep your juices flowing (or not flowing – in this case). My final advice would be to avoid making any tease and denial game too complicated, or requiring too much effort to follow. It will become tiresome quickly. Finally, make sure you mix it up often; to keep your partner on their toes and never forget that there is only one correct way to enjoy chastity and orgasm denial and that is the way that works best for you both.
If you are considering purchasing a chastity device, take a look at my chastity device reviews, as these may be able to guide you in the right direction.
What tease and denial methods turn you on the most? Leave your comments below and do let me know if you would like to see your idea added to the slider above.