Pussy-Pump-Guide

Beginners Guide To Using Pussy Pumps

Pussy pumps, in my humble opinion, are amazing little toys that can bring a whole new element of fun to your sex life. They can be a little intimidating at first. I’ve been there:
Will it hurt or damage me?
Will my vulva look like the pumped pussies I have seen in the porn movies?
Will the swelling go down?
Will my partner find it off putting?

Since those early days I am happy to say that we now enjoy using pussy pumps together. I see a lot of questions asked about them on the internet, from women and men who are interested in using a pump on their partners but are feeling unsure how to begin. So, here is my guide to help you on your way to enjoying pumps as much as I do.

So, why use a pussy pump?

There are a few reasons. The main ones are the “looks” and “feel”. Some people are attracted to the swollen, plump appearance of the vulva. Others enjoy the sensations, both during and afterwards when the whole area feels more sensitive to the touch. Some are looking for a “tighter vagina” sensation and there are folks who get a kick out of using pussy pumps for BDSM play. (Causing or experiencing pain, feeling vulnerable, controlled or embarrassed) and for some it is simply just a turn on to try something new and unique.

Why is it important to take some measurements and buy a pump that fits?

I have tried quite a few pussy pumps and can tell you from experience that the only thing you will get from a cup that doesn’t fit is pain or disappointment. Measure yourself from just above the top of your clitoral shaft,(Where the fatty part of the pubic mound begins) right down to your perineum. (Just below your vaginal entrance.) You can also measure the width from one side of the bikini line to the other. You probably wont find an exact fit, but try to find a pussy pump with a cup that most closely resembles your measurements.

When the cup is too large:

Cups that are too large will half (or completely) cover your anus. This means that every time you “pump” it sucks harshly at the very sensitive and delicate skin around your anus and that just hurts. You will experience most of the sucking and pulling sensations on your poor booty, rather than on your pussy and you will have to stop pumping before you feel much sensation on your vagina because your butt hurts too much. You cannot even move the cup back because your pubic mound curves. In general the cups on pussy pumps do not curve enough to allow you to place it high enough on your pubic mound and still create an airtight seal. So cups that are too large are painful.

When the cup is too small:

After my first experience with the cup that was too large I decided to purchase a pump that was advertised as “petite” Well I assumed that, after my first experience, I must be tiny down there. This was mistake number two. Cups that are too small are disappointing.The petite cup fit fine, sitting comfortably over the correct areas, but after two pumps (and barely any sensation) the cup was full. I couldn’t pump any more air out of the cup. Useless.

How do you use a pussy pump?

Before you begin:

Surprisingly, there are a few things you can do before you even begin to use your pussy pump that may make your experience more enjoyable:
Shave or wax your bikini line, where the cup will sit. Understand that this is not a requirement, but it can help you to get a better seal if you are smooth and hair free. It is still possible to use a pump without reaching for the shears but the seal can be a little more temperamental.
Buy some lube. Running some lube around the edges of the cup, and onto your skin where the cup will sit, can really help you to get a better seal during use

Set aside plenty of time. A pussy pumping session generally takes time and patience. Especially if you are looking for that pumped look. How long it takes depends on the person and rushing it might cause discomfort and ruin your experience.

Getting started:

At first you may find it slightly fiddly to get an airtight seal. The best position to start is to lay on your back with your legs spread. Have the top of the cup resting on your pubic mound and make sure that the bottom of the cup is covering the vaginal entrance and is resting somewhere on the perineum.
Once in place, apply a little bit of pressure. Gently push the cup into the skin. This helps to form a better seal and make everything airtight. (Just be gentle) Once this pressure is applied, squeeze the bulb and gently release it. If you are in the correct place, you will notice your labia and clitoris being sucked into the cup. If a seal wasn’t created, move the cup slightly or give it a little wiggle and repeat the process of applying pressure and squeezing.
If you are using a pussy pump on your partner and have any doubts, pass the cup or bulb to her. She will be able to guide the cup into the right spot easier as she can feel what’s going on. If you are worried about hurting her or you feel unsure about her limits, hand her the bulb and watch what she does and how much she can take.

Important things to remember during use:

  1. The suction effect is felt most intensely during the release of the bulb, not during the squeeze. This is important. You don’t want to cause her pain. (Or lose suction) At first, my boyfriend would slowly squeeze this bulb and release it fast. Don’t do this. It probably seems more logical but releasing the bulb fast causes the air to be sucked out of the cup very quickly. It will therefore also cause her vulva to be sucked quickly into the cup and if she is already at her limit, it can be painful and too intense. Squeezing the bulb slowly also causes the seal to break and the cup just falls off. “Squeeze fast. Release slow” is the golden rule.
  2. Take it slow. Pussy pumping feels a lot more intense than say, sucking with a mouth. Probably because it is covering a larger surface area and the seal is stronger. Mouths are soft, but the edge of the cup is rigid. As you progress, it can feel as though the edges are really digging in. Always go slow.
  3. The difference between one and two pumps can be the difference between pleasure and pain. This isn’t a feat of strength and there is no need to be constantly squeezing at that bulb like you’re taking someone’s blood pressure. (Unless you enjoy that of course.)
  4. Do not let porn guide you. I can achieve a reasonably plump pussy using pumps but that takes time. (30 minutes +) I find it impossible to achieve that extremely swollen look that you see in porn movies with regular pussy pumps. Maybe they have super huge industrial pumps or maybe I am a wimp but either way. It doesn’t happen for me. If it doesn’t happen for you either, don’t be disappointed. It doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong.

Now you can play:

As you begin to experiment with the pump you will start to realize that this is a “stop and start” game. There can be a big difference in intensity between one and two squeezes of the bulb so take it slowly. Give one or two squeezes until she lets you know that she is at the limit and hold it there, allowing her to get used to this sensation. This can be a few seconds or a few minutes, whichever feels best.

Keep her “topped up” during these breaks. Air can (and does) leak back into the cup, even with the best seal. She will be able to feel the pressure “easing off” as this happens and eventually the cup can fall off this way. This doesn’t happen too fast but if it does you will need to get a better seal with the cup. Simply depress the bulb about a quarter of the way and release, every five to 10 seconds to keep her topped up.

Once she has gotten used to this sensation you can now push her a little further. Give the bulb another full squeeze (or two) and release slowly.
Release the suction now and again during a session. It feels so much nicer (And it will allow her to play for longer) if you pump her up, keep her at the limit for a while and then release the suction a little, or all the way. This allows the blood to flow and allows her to take little breaks from the potentially intense feeling of being constantly sucked at. Doing this will not set you back or force you to start from the beginning. It will not impede on the swelling or sensitivity. Make sure to pump her back to where she was before you released the pressure and see if you can go a bit further. I recommend purchasing a pump with a quick release valve for this purpose.

Keep repeating this process of pumping, stopping, releasing and pushing a little further for as long as you both wish.

What does it feel like to use a Pussy Pump?

The first few sucks feel amazing. At this point you can feel the suction on your clit. You can feel your clit harden and you can feel yourself swelling slightly. It is a nice tingly sensation.

As you progress, the sensations can begin feeling very intense. If you are looking for the swollen look you will need to push it further and at this point it is a pleasure/pain sensation. On the one hand this suction on your intimate parts feels great but on the other hand it can feel uncomfortable, especially around your vaginal entrance and perineum or the edges of the cup where it can dig in as the pressure increases. It isn’t a horrible pain (Unless you rush it or go too far too soon.) but depending on your tastes, this intensity can either heighten the experience or put you off altogether. I suggest taking it slow at first and getting used to the sensations and finding your own limits.

Aside from the physical sensations, you can also feel mentally turned on when using a pump. The thought of how sensitive you will feel afterwards, the thought of your partners hand resting on the outside of the cup but you can’t feel it, the naughtiness of the situation and of course watching him or her enjoy the experience are all mental turn ons.

How long will she stay swollen?

The swelling is temporary and it will begin to subside pretty soon after you stop pumping. You will probably notice the majority of the swelling disappears within an hour or two and by the next day everything will have returned to normal.

Can pussy pumping cause damage?

I am not a doctor, nor do I have any qualifications in this area. I can only speak from personal experience. I have never experienced any damage, nor have I heard of it happening to anyone else but like anything, there is always a possibility Take it slow and listen to your lady and the chances of causing any damage are extremely slim. Do more research if this worries you.

I hope you found this helpful. If I have missed anything, or you need more information, please leave me a comment below.

7 replies
  1. PrincessBLARITY
    PrincessBLARITY says:

    These tips are excellent! Ive experienced a clitoris pump.The sensation was incredible!Im thinking of buying my first pussy pump soon and I cant wait to have a fat cameltoe and clit!

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  2. Tina
    Tina says:

    My partners plan on using a pump on me for the first time. Thank you for this article it has helped me to go into it with less worry.

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  3. StacyJean
    StacyJean says:

    Thank you so much for this guide! It answered my questions and then some! My boyfriend and I have enjoyed the visual and physical effects of using a penis pump and are looking forward to trying a pussy pump now.
    My only concern is finding the correct size for me. I am very petite (5’0), so I’m worried that most will be too large for me. Many of the online stores do not list the measurements for the different pumps. Could you point me in the direction of an online store that offers a variety of sizes? Thanks so much again for this awesome guide!

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    • GrittyWoman
      GrittyWoman says:

      You are welcome! Thank you for the lovely comment. If it helps, I am only 5ft too and I found the best pump for me was the Doc Johnson Pussy Pump The cup on this pump fits me very well, compared to others I have tried, but every woman comes in different shapes and sizes. The Doc Johnson pump worked for me for two reasons; firstly, the cup is not too long or short and secondly, the cup has plenty of room inside, to allow for some swelling. (Petite pumps can run out of room quickly, before you even have even really began). It is good value for money too. Not too expensive.

      I recommend shopping at Lovehoney, who do a wide range of different pumps. (You can find them here) (Affiliate links used).

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  4. thaddeus
    thaddeus says:

    My girlfriends vigina is swolen and she has been crying for two days and cant walk around without pain yes pussy pumps can damage your vagina always exercise caution and go slow.

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    • GrittyWoman
      GrittyWoman says:

      Thanks for your comment Thaddeus and I am sorry to hear about your partners uncomfortable experience. This clearly shows it is possible to cause pain and/or discomfort if rushed or pushed too hard and it is always important to listen to your body.

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